Nobody wrote:mikesbytes wrote:It's your other strengths that attracted her to you, the male build is way down her list of priorities.
Thanks. Good for me then.mikesbytes wrote:One other reason that some females don't like their man to be slim is the unspoken rule that she must be slimmer than him. If he's slimmed down then it puts more pressure on her to slim down too.
I think you've hit the nail on the head. Since I remember her saying once that the wife should be lighter than her husband. Even trying to gain weight at the moment, I'm probably still 15 kg+ lighter than her.mikesbytes wrote:BTY the issue of one partner improving their diet and the other not issue is both ways and often leads the other to diet sabotage, a typical approach is to stock the fridge with the thing that the dieting person can't resist for example chocolates or beer
My house is full of chocolate, biscuits, ice cream, cake, chips, processed meals, etc. It doesn't appear to have an effect on me. My resolve is too strong. But as Chef AJ says "If it's in your house, it's in your mouth." So it must have an effect on the majority.
By the sounds of it, the large piles of junk food are there for her own consumption and most likely contributes to those extra 15kg (plus whatever she should weigh less than you). Sadly a large % of households have the same holdings which means that what should be treats for children and everyday foods.
I was at a friends house and I observed that they were buying soft drinks by the 30 can cartons, there were 3 of these cartons, today I was out to lunch with the same family and only one drink was brought, which was for their 4 year old and I suspect they didn't buy drinks for themselves as we didn't. It did mean that I had to explain to my 3 year old that she wasn't getting one when her friend was and somehow got away with it but it did also give me the opportunity to make a suggestion to them. I told the husband about the rise in childhood diabetes and suggested that the drink should be a treat when they go out and suggested that the stop having soft drinks at home.